The anger behind the violence, no matter what scale it is perpetrated,
is generated by the fear we have of the perpetrators of this same violence.
The fear of violence is therefore capable of generating an equally destructive
and murderous violence as the one it is trying to fight. It is then necessary
to seek in the area of the fears if we want to succeed in defusing violence.
Both : ours, even if we didn't put them in action; as those of the persons
who have already perpetrated them; in order to stop feeding a perpetual
vicious circle, terribly murderous. ...
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Here is the summary of Pema Chödron's Book : "Practicing peace
in times of war"
The idea of the book is that violence around us, is is only a reflection
the violence that is in us. If we are able to observe, to manage this
violence inside us, when refusing to run at once into escalation, we can
manage to reduce our own violence, but also the general violence to a
higher degree than that of a Cartesian equation (7 billions minus 1).
And the violence that we are talking about is also minimal violence :
frustration, tickling, reactions to the small provocations of life. It's
even there that everythings starts. This summary is complementing the
article "From opposition to non-violence". ... read the article
We all have, and in a unique way for everyone, our own perception of
the world and of ourselves. In our relationships with our entourage (as
individuals, associations or citizens), we will confront our perception
with that of our partners. And there are two major trends in how to do
it: looking for common ground or to be on the same page, or trying to
be right (meaning : trying to prove the other is wrong). This is reflected
in our ways of talking, in our arguments, in the negotiations, as well
as in our means of action. The chosen attitude will influence our relationships,
the people involved, and the choice of solutions during conflicts. ... read the article
1) After almost 4 years of silence, here are two new articles.
A part of these texts is based on the same reasoning, which may appear
as a repetition. However, it is still two distinct approaches, written
at different times, each in a state of mind that corresponds to it.
These articles are somewhat complementary and follow the one on the management
of thoughts and emotions.
Taking a step aside by learning to observe our thoughts without identifying
with them enables to create a much greater freedom of thinking, to make
room for humility and also for caution about our own opinions, knowledges
and beliefs. And this especially enables us to access new dimensions of
ourself and to have a very different impact in our lives. ... Read the article
This text proposes an approach to dementia through knowledge of ourself
and of our thoughts. We are the result of our automatisms. And the more
time goes by, the more these will take power in our lives. Better understanding
this mechanism of automatization of our mental functioning can help us
to learn how to manage our mental differently, in order to avoid that
this process overtake us too quickly. It's from the beginning of life
that something has to be done.
And by better understanding these mechanisms we can learn to better understand
and interact with older people and people with dementia. These latter,
if they have lost their autonomy, their ability to reason and express
themselves, have lost none of their knowledge, their personality and their
experience. Considering things in this way enables to deal with them in
a very different way and to restore respect, contact, trust and the emotional
part of the relationship. ... Read the article
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This website, existing in French since 2008, has been translated (partly)
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